Thursday, May 14, 2009

Why I'm No Moho

I've never been too keen on the word "moho" ("Mormon" +"homosexual" = "moho").

In my mind, a moho tends to be one of two types of people:

The first are they who proclaim "I lived the gay lifestyle, and I testify that the standards of the Church are where true happiness lies!" These are they to whom the General Authorities will listen. These are they that usually proclaim themselves as leaders, examples, and what-not as they ooze self-righteousness.

The second are they who sing "I belong to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints" for three months, hook up with random other mohos for a month, repent, and start singing all over again. These are they that are seen as "doing their best" and are often coddled by the members of the Church because of "how hard it must be."

Both make it extremely difficult for the kind of gay Mormon that I am.

The "gay lifestyle" of the first is not the lifestyle I am seeking (not to mention that self-righteousness is one of the least appealing traits there is to have, in my opinion.). When they actually sit down and discuss what their lives were like, they often describe one night stands, partying, noncommittal relationships, sometimes drugs and alcohol, maybe the occassional story where they were rejected by someone they wanted to be with, etc.

The second's actions are simply oozing with hypocrisy and perpetuate the attitude that being gay is soley about sexual attraction.

Neither of these generalizations describe who I am and what I'm all about. So, I'm going to refrain from using the term "moho" to describe myself.


  1. I think you read into the term too much.

    I'm not either of those things, and I still use Moho.

    I'm no longer an active member of the church, and never plan to go back. And yet, I'm still not visiting bathhouses and being sexually promiscuous.

    I still call myself "mo" in the moho because it's my framework... my culture.

  2. I love how sexual promiscuity, drugs, and partying are attributed SOLELY to the "gay lifestyle" when plenty of my straight friends partake of these vices nightly.

    I will also add that I find no fault in sexual promiscuity if it's practiced using protection. The long term goal in life is to find one monogamous partner, yes. Having sex with prospects won't kill anyone.

  3. I definitely understand how you feel, "moho" definitely doesn't work when I describe myself. And I've yet to find a way to label who I am and my experience in life and in the church.

  4. Hm. I'm going to pretend I don't fit into your "moho" categories. :-P