Saturday, April 3, 2010

The Gesture I Needed

My little brother invited me to Priesthood Session today.

I declined.

He then invited me to dinner afterward.

This was just what I needed for me to know things are going to be okay between my family and me. I don't feel like I need to send any letter now.

I'll stick to my original plan, to simply live my life and let them come to me if they have any questions or concerns.


  1. You just can't beat having a good brother around. I have two and I don't know where I would be without them.

  2. Actually, my little brother's has been the most vocal about thinking I'm an evil sinner... which is what made the gesture so remarkable to me.

  3. Better still then. I think it might be harder on little brothers for whatever reason. I'm the baby so I wouldn't really know for sure. But that's what I think. We little brothers tend to have pretty high expectations for our older siblings.

    In any event, it's a nice turn of events for you.

  4. Hmmmm. Not sure if I said that right. What I meant was I've never had a younger brother to be disappointed in me.

  5. I know what you mean, and I definitely agree.

  6. dear pandrew,

    I know maybe I'm not the best to get advice from, but why wait for your brother to come to you?

    repairing that bond might not be easy, but actively trying might help you understand each other. its a definite step towards acceptance.

    It might be presumptuous of me to say your relationship had to have been closer, but if its anything like what I experienced... you've definitely grown apart.

    life is too short.

    ps i'm glad you don't need the letter.

  7. hey, it's always good to hear positive endings... I'm glad it seems to be working out... it gives hope to those that are in the middle of dealing with their own "issues" (mostly due to coming out but you never know how something might help someone...) so thanks...

  8. pgf: I'm only referring to those things gay as far as letting them come to me. I definitely will take your advice and try to bridge the gap between my brother and me.

    cadence: Hope unfortunately seems to be rare in these parts; I'm glad to hear the positive things in my life are bringing some sort of hope to not just me.