tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6847189204161971538.post3994527157519859542..comments2023-11-13T03:11:41.509-08:00Comments on greenly chalked: PMSUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6847189204161971538.post-87196245939205612372008-12-10T13:21:00.000-08:002008-12-10T13:21:00.000-08:00Andrew--I agree with the others. It is not easy f...Andrew--<br><br>I agree with the others. It is not easy for me to respond to your blog, inasmuch as I have had the relative support of my dad. Though we don't discuss my orientation much, his opinion is that he really does not care if I have a boyfriend or not. In the end, I am and always will be his son.<br><br>In my mind, I say go for it. You need to allow yourself to be happy. Don't allow those around you who seek not to understand you to determine YOUR life and YOUR happiness for you. A person who is truly for you will encourage you. Remember...Christ said that the wheat will be separated from the chaff.<br><br>I hope this helps. Call him up and talk to him. :)<br><br>Peace,<br><br>Andrewandrewdb01http://andrewdb01.livejournal.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6847189204161971538.post-48216909590265010402008-11-18T00:31:00.000-08:002008-11-18T00:31:00.000-08:00Thanks, everyone, for your comments.I definitely w...Thanks, everyone, for your comments.<br><br>I definitely will not let my fear of familial abandonment paralyze me totally. I'm getting over it; venting has helped.Chednerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963974112297032614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6847189204161971538.post-75106668278864178132008-11-17T13:59:00.000-08:002008-11-17T13:59:00.000-08:00I might be able to arrange that...I might be able to arrange that...[kɹeɪ̯ɡ̊]http://www.blogger.com/profile/09374110841642375968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6847189204161971538.post-80815470806837622852008-11-16T22:10:00.000-08:002008-11-16T22:10:00.000-08:00Lots of growth in life takes place when determinat...Lots of growth in life takes place when determination overcomes fear. And often you discover that the fear was worse than anything else.<br><br>So find out the guy's name and get his number. Call him up. Talk. At worst you will make a new friend. Nothing wrong with that.Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02992194211469009236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6847189204161971538.post-42954449493141423332008-11-16T20:07:00.000-08:002008-11-16T20:07:00.000-08:00I figured as much...I figured as much...[kɹeɪ̯ɡ̊]http://www.blogger.com/profile/09374110841642375968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6847189204161971538.post-13218568174493857162008-11-16T19:57:00.000-08:002008-11-16T19:57:00.000-08:00While we may not be "cut off" because of...While we may not be "cut off" because of our orientation, our current feelings toward the Church have led to similar fears within us.<br><br>It sucks, and there's no place for it.<br><br>But you have to do what's right for you, Chedner. You have to. Your family matters absolutely and they should play a part in your decisions, but not to such a point to render you depressed and scared.<br><br>I agree with Scott. I've been reading a lot of blogs as of late as well, and that seems to be the general thing. If you want to bring the subject up to your mom beforehand, to warn her, that might be something. <br><br>But if this is what you feel is right and what you need to do, well - do it. Your family should come around. Having your siblings on your side is a HUGE advantage.<br><br>All the best <3Lisahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10268689890561878413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6847189204161971538.post-25277023968360468732008-11-16T17:25:00.000-08:002008-11-16T17:25:00.000-08:00Here's my advice, born from many, many weeks o...Here's my advice, born from many, many weeks of experience reading about other peoples' lives on (mostly Mormon-themed) gay blogs and mailing lists:<br><br>Your family isn't going to get used to the idea of you dating guys in general, or seriously dating a guy specifically, until they actually have a reason to.<br><br>If you continue to remain single and continue to not date they can continue to be comfortable with the idea of you doing so. When you start dating, and force them to confront the idea, there will probably be some initial discomfort and perhaps some initial distancing, but it's fairly likely that they'll eventually (hopefully sooner than later) come around.<br><br>I've read a few sad stories of people who have been disowned when they started dating, or been told that their partner is not invited to family gatherings.<br><br>But I've read far more stories about people whose families got over their initial discomfort and eventually embraced the choices that brought the gay member of the family the most happiness.<br><br>Although I don't know much about your family, I suspect they're more likely to be like the latter than the former.<br><br>But you'll never know unless you jump into the dating pool.Scotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15332275934258698026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6847189204161971538.post-56786719024238341952008-11-16T15:41:00.000-08:002008-11-16T15:41:00.000-08:00Well, at least guys you're into are into you. ...Well, at least guys you're into are into you. I'm overweight -- the hot guys don't give me a second look... :(<br><br>But I'm working to change that...Ezrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18249055675517672157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6847189204161971538.post-69897070349759389242008-11-16T14:53:00.000-08:002008-11-16T14:53:00.000-08:00Do you know for sure that your family will cut you...Do you know for sure that your family will cut you off or do you just suspect/fear it? That's an awful situation. :(Amandahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07026099426503180472noreply@blogger.com