tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6847189204161971538.post2586649116463813128..comments2023-11-13T03:11:41.509-08:00Comments on greenly chalked: I'm getting bold in my old age.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6847189204161971538.post-51849314523560969632010-01-22T12:09:25.863-08:002010-01-22T12:09:25.863-08:00Pedro reminds me very much of Davros, my friend - ...Pedro reminds me very much of Davros, my friend - who I am about 80% nearly kissed me once, and who, to this day denies any of it, never mind that he quite deliberately pushed my buttons FOR YEARS in high school.<br><br>And JGW - that's a tender story.<br><br>and Boskers, we're in the same boat, although I have much less reason to be asked, being the seven-year married father of two.Kengo Biddleshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12083962910965544925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6847189204161971538.post-18255777505709172352010-01-22T09:24:19.707-08:002010-01-22T09:24:19.707-08:00Amen to J G-W. I'd still deny it if someone a...Amen to J G-W. I'd still deny it if someone asked me today, unless I trusted the person.boskershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08175153474572340487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6847189204161971538.post-46716836388814385822010-01-22T06:57:43.121-08:002010-01-22T06:57:43.121-08:00I don't know if his answer proves anything... ...I don't know if his answer proves anything... Because I did the exact same thing at one point.<br><br>In my senior year in college (when I was still struggling with this stuff) I pretty much fell head over heels in love with a straight friend. One evening, I was at his house. More than anything, I just wanted to hold him; kiss him. I was sitting really close to him...<br><br>He finally picked up on the vibes he was getting from me. He (very compassionately I think) gave me a very long, warm hug. Then he said to me, "I think I know what you need."<br><br>I asked him what he meant by that, and then he told me he had a couple of gay friends, and he encouraged me to talk to them.<br><br>I was actually pretty mortified, and I completely denied that I was gay. I apologized, and told him he had completely misread me, and then I left. Really, it took another year before I was ready to come out.<br><br>But my approach to this is that regardless of what "vibes" you are getting from someone else, you always have to let them have control over their coming out process. It's possible the vibes you think you're getting are wrong. But wrong or right, it's up to that individual to figure it out for him or herself.J G-Whttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03557940681381951271noreply@blogger.com